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By Harley on Tue Aug 18 2026

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• Kevinbryan: Sarah, first of all, congratulations to you and Reyvan on getting her diagnosis. know today probably came with a lot of different emotions — maybe relief because you finally have some answers, but also worry and uncertainty about what happens next. Please know that feeling like “I have no idea what I’m doing” is completely normal. A lot of parents feel that way after diagnosis. The fact that you’re already asking questions, researching and wanting to understand your daughter better shows how much you love her and how much of a difference you’re going to make for her.
  The biggest thing to remember is that Reyvan is still the same little girl she was yesterday. The diagnosis doesn’t change who she is — it just gives you more information about how her brain works and how you can support her. Autism looks different in every child, so try not to compare her to other autistic children you might meet or read about. Focus on learning your daughter — what makes her happy, what overwhelms her, what helps her feel safe, and how she communicates her needs.
  A few things that many parents find helpful after diagnosis:
  Try to see behaviour as communication. If Reyvan has a meltdown, struggles with something, or reacts strongly, it usually isn’t because she’s being difficult. It’s often because something is too much for her — maybe noise, change, frustration, tiredness, sensory overload, or not being able to express what she needs.
  Routines can be very comforting. Many autistic children feel more secure when they know what is happening next. Simple things like giving warnings before transitions (“5 more minutes, then we’re leaving”), using pictures, or having a predictable routine can make everyday life easier.
  Pay attention to sensory needs. Some children are sensitive to sounds, textures, clothing, food, lights or crowds. Others seek sensory input like jumping, spinning, touching things or needing pressure. An occupational therapist can be really helpful in understanding what Reyvan needs.
  Celebrate her strengths. Autism is not just about challenges. Your daughter will have her own amazing qualities, interests and ways of seeing the world. Those things are just as important as the things she may find difficult.
  Right now, you don’t need to know everything. You don’t need to have all the answers straight away. Take it one day at a time and learn Reyvan’s own “language.” She will teach you a lot about what she needs.
  It can also really help to connect with other parents of autistic children, because having people who understand the journey can make you feel much less alone.
  If you’re comfortable sharing, what were the main things that led to Reyvan being assessed? Was it speech, sensory differences, behaviour, social interaction, routines, or something else? And is she currently in nursery or starting school soon?
• Real Ray C:

  Welcome to Wefayo, Sarah and Reyvan! ❤️

  We’re really glad you found this community.