I feel like his friends are pulling him back and he’s not hearing me...
By Eli Mercer on
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, and we are good. When it’s just us, everything feels solid and healthy.
The issue is his friends.
The guys he hangs out with don’t seem responsible at all, and every time he’s with them, it feels like he slips backward less focused, more careless. This isn’t a one-time thing. It keeps happening.
I’ve tried talking to him about it calmly and honestly. I explain how it worries me and how it affects us. He listens in the moment, says he understands, and then keeps doing the same thing. Nothing changes.
What hurts most is feeling unheard. Like my concerns are acknowledged but not taken seriously. I’m not asking him to drop his friends, I just want him to recognize the influence they have on him.
I love him, but it’s exhausting feeling like I care more about his future than the people he chooses to surround himself with.