"We don't do that here" -- and other lies...
By YourChild.org on
Every time I hear another school administrator say "we don't do that here," I want to translate that phrase for what it really means: "We're choosing not to help your child."
These institutional cop-outs aren't just bureaucratic language—they're direct barriers to educational access. When schools claim they lack resources, staff, or willingness to accommodate diverse learning needs, they're essentially telling parents that systemic convenience matters more than individual student potential. This isn't just frustrating—it's fundamentally wrong.
Parents, you have more power than these dismissive statements suggest. Every "we don't" is an opportunity to ask "why not?" and push for concrete solutions. Documentation, persistent communication, understanding your legal rights under IDEA and 504 plans—these are your tools. School systems rely on parents feeling overwhelmed and giving up. Your consistent, strategic advocacy is the counterweight to their institutional inertia.
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- Kevin: You clearly have a lot of knowledge and experience, and it shows. Situations like these are rarely simple, and for many families they can feel confusing and overwhelming in the moment. Having someone who understands how these conversations unfold and can help parents navigate them with clarity and confidence is incredibly valuable! That kind of perspective can make a real difference in how families move forward.