Dating someone who only takes drains you in ways you don’t notice at first

I dated someone for almost two years who, looking back, never really gave anything to the relationship not emotionally, not financially, not even effort. She had a job, but somehow everything still fell on me. Every meal, every outing, every bill I covered it all. At first, I didn’t see it as a big deal. I cared about her, and I thought helping was just part of being supportive. But over time, it started feeling one-sided. She never offered to contribute, never planned anything, never checked in about me. It was always about what she needed, what I could do, what I could give. The breaking point came when I told her I was struggling financially, and instead of understanding, she got upset as if I’d failed her by not having enough. That moment hit me hard. We’re not together anymore, and honestly, I’ve learned a lot from it. A relationship shouldn’t feel like carrying someone on your back while they just enjoy the ride. It’s supposed to be about mutual care effort that goes both ways. Sometimes love blinds you to imbalance, but once you step out, the weight you feel lifting tells you everything.